Almost everyone is familiar with The Proverbs 31 Woman – but what’s the male equivalent? In all my years of churchgoing, I can’t say I’ve ever heard men encouraged to embody a specific passage in the way women are. Yes, the Proverbs 31 characteristics are also applicable to men; however, when you’re selecting a potential […]
I once entered a relationship with the conviction that it was undeniably God’s will. I had prayed for a sign, and as far I could tell, He delivered. We didn’t get married. Did God get it wrong? Did I misinterpret the sign? “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your […]
Social Media Question #2: “Personality vs Love Languages. Is there a difference between these two? Do they go hand in hand? How important are they? Do they help build better relationships?” “Afterward it happened that he loved a woman in the Valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah.” (Judges 16:4) In Context The Bible is unclear about […]
I attended an evangelism school in my teens and I remember one of the speakers encouraging us to “dedicate our 20s to the Lord.” I wasn’t keen. I had milestones I wanted to reach and things I wanted to do. Serving God actively could fit in later. “I want you to be free from the […]
This post is basically an elaboration on point 2 of my ‘breakup journey’ from Clarity Beyond The Tears. However, I also talked about the importance of having a ‘breakup analysis’ in I Love You But. 2. Realising that actually I had a lot to do with the breakup too, and there are personal character flaws […]
Last week, I was super excited for a friend whose boyfriend basically popped up out of nowhere. The last relationship conversation we had was about how there aren’t enough guys in church… then BAM! A few months later she meets this lovely guy! Although I’m a tad bit envious, I’m also conscious that I can’t […]
As much as I wasn’t willing to hang around for a situationship, I was hoping that the breakup wouldn’t last forever. The actual day of the breakup was awful. However, a few months later, he mentioned that he’d left my particular denomination. At that point, I had to process that we could never get back […]
Although there are many arranged marriages where the couple genuinely grows to love each other; in an ideal world, I want to marry my best friend. The friendship I have with my actual best friend (male), is similar to what I’d want with a prospective partner. The level of trust, banter, and honesty that we […]
“I love you, but I don’t want to be with you right now.” The notion that someone could love me, yet be unprepared to commit was discordant. Figuring things out as ‘friends’ for an unspecified amount of time was not for me; I signed up for a relationship, not a situationship. As I mourned the death […]
