They say “you can’t miss what you’ve never had”, right? But what if you’re constantly surrounded (real life, TV etc.) by the very thing you desire? You don’t have the luxury of “out of sight, out of mind”… but you do (conveniently) have a boyfriend who is equally as curious, and happy to oblige. To cut a long story short: no physical contact turned into kissing, which turned into sex, which in some ways prompted the beginning of the end.
“And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.” (Galatians 5:24-25)
There’s a reason Paul advises us to ‘crucify’ the flesh: our carnal desires will always be contrary to God’s will (Romans 8:7). Desires aren’t the issue… how you deal with them is. In other words, it’s great that you find your significant other physically attractive; BUT, you must train your bodies to refrain from acting on that attraction until marriage.
Naturally, you’re probably wondering why I’m preaching what I clearly didn’t practice?! However, it’s because I did the wrong thing that I can proclaim doing the right thing with such conviction and passion. That, and because ain’t nobody got time to be making the same mistake twice, girl!
Did I lose my virginity in the context of a loving* relationship? Yes!
Do I regret it? Yes!
Would I engage in pre-marital sex again? No!
Would I advise that you abstain from all physical contact until marriage? Absolutely!
Will it be easy to resist temptation? No!
Should you/I try despite the difficulty? 1000% YES!
*loving in the purely semantic (as opposed to biblical) sense
I hope that as you read about my break up, you’ll ponder over the depth of this quote:
“Experience is a great teacher, but a fool learns by no other means” – Benjamin Franklin
You don’t need to play with fire to know it burns… trust me!