The day after the breakup a friend called to see how I was. Apparently I seemed more upbeat than they were expecting. I naively replied, “I’ve cried so much already, I don’t think I can cry any more.” If only that were true. Over the subsequent weeks it probably would have been easier to count […]

This post is basically an elaboration on point 2 of my ‘breakup journey’ from Clarity Beyond The Tears. However, I also talked about the importance of having a ‘breakup analysis’ in I Love You But. 2. Realising that actually I had a lot to do with the breakup too, and there are personal character flaws […]

As much as I wasn’t willing to hang around for a situationship, I was hoping that the breakup wouldn’t last forever. The actual day of the breakup was awful. However, a few months later, he mentioned that he’d left my particular denomination. At that point, I had to process that we could never get back […]

“I love you, but I don’t want to be with you right now.”  The notion that someone could love me, yet be unprepared to commit was discordant. Figuring things out as ‘friends’ for an unspecified amount of time was not for me; I signed up for a relationship, not a situationship. As I mourned the death […]

One of the things I love about doing the right thing is that it’s not stressful. There’s no second guessing, you don’t question if that right thing is going to have terrible consequences later. You’re free. Doing the wrong thing, well… that’s a whole different story. You never quite know when/how it’ll catch up with you. […]

A few months after the break up I remember having a conversation with this guy. Although I’m probably paraphrasing exactly what he said, I’ll always remember the essence of it because I hadn’t really thought about it that way: Him:*drops some line* Me: To be honest I’d rather get back with my ex than start […]

You never think it’ll happen to you until it does. I became…. a crier. Guys, I have never cried so many times, and for so long in all of my life. Letting go of someone that you’ve known for almost 3 years, and had been in a relationship with for just under 2 was not […]

They say “you can’t miss what you’ve never had”, right? But what if you’re constantly surrounded (real life, TV etc.) by the very thing you desire? You don’t have the luxury of “out of sight, out of mind”… but you do (conveniently) have a boyfriend who is equally as curious, and happy to oblige. To […]