August was a hard month spiritually-speaking. I’d planned to write about one of the many joy verses I didn’t get to include in the 7 day devotional and whilst the key text is a joy verse, the content isn’t what I was expecting (I’m writing the intro after the blog which is rare). However, whilst […]

My first exposure to sex was when I was no more than 8 years old. It was on a bus back in Zimbabwe where I saw the bus conductor having sex on a seat with a passenger. At the time, I didn’t think much of it because I had no idea what they were doing. […]

I wish I could remember why the 13-year-old me wanted to get baptised so badly. Looking back, all I can remember is feeling a sense of urgency because of a campaign that had been happening at the time. It felt like it was now or never. It’s funny how much of a fuss I made […]

Do you ever wish you could turn back time and give the younger version of you the knowledge you’ve gained about life? I do. At times it feels like there’s a film playing in my head that I can’t stop. I keep rewinding it and hoping that I’ll say something different so the outcome changes… […]

Of the numerous regrets I’ve had in my life, both big and small, I’d have to say that leaving my master’s degree is probably joint first.  The fact that I ‘left’ a long time before I officially withdrew from the course was definitely the most difficult pill to swallow. That is, I told myself I […]

I wrote Masturbation almost 3 years ago, but it’s only recently occurred to me to write about its partner-in-crime: pornography. Whilst I started masturbating way before I knew pornography existed, as soon as I found out about the latter it became a frequent accompaniment. In the West, unrestricted explicit content was at my fingertips; however, […]

If you’ve read I Can’t Help It! then you know that many Christians believe the myth that a sinless character is impossible to attain. It’s definitely easier, less stressful, and more convenient to believe that. But that’s the case with all low expectations. Although this is hardest goal you could hope to achieve, I hope that […]

I recently attended a retreat and one of the workshops was entitled ‘Love, Sex, & Marriage.’ The girls and guys were split into different groups to talk about ‘gender relevant’ issues. Afterwards, a male friend and I were talking and he mentioned how his workshop included ‘the usual.’ I probed to see what he meant […]

“It’s not that deep.” I loathe that statement. Especially when individuals use it to refer to things that are blatantly that deep. You may choose to brush the issue under the carpet with a phrase that will soothe your conscience. However, that does not negate the actual ‘deepness’ of whatever you are trying to ignore. […]

A female Christian friend seemed blasé about her personal relationships with friends who she acknowledges have ‘benefits.’ But I’m of the view that such an intimate arrangement between two so-called ‘friends’ cheapens, trivialises, and distorts love. Of course I can’t dictate how she, or you, should live your life. However, I would ask you to […]