As this post coincides with International Women’s Day, it got me thinking about maturity. Legally, I became an adult at 18. Technically that also means I transitioned from a child to a woman, and henceforth IWD has been applicable to me. Maturity isn’t just about age though…  It’s crazy to think that I was once […]

Of the numerous regrets I’ve had in my life, both big and small, I’d have to say that leaving my master’s degree is probably joint first.  The fact that I ‘left’ a long time before I officially withdrew from the course was definitely the most difficult pill to swallow. That is, I told myself I […]

I wrote Masturbation almost 3 years ago, but it’s only recently occurred to me to write about its partner-in-crime: pornography. Whilst I started masturbating way before I knew pornography existed, as soon as I found out about the latter it became a frequent accompaniment. In the West, unrestricted explicit content was at my fingertips; however, […]

On paper I’m a British citizen and I’ve lived in the UK for most of my life. However, I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve been asked where I’m ‘really’ from. Although I’m Rwandan by heritage, my inability to speak the language (fluently), and the fact I’ve never been there, makes me feel […]

Last week, a friend mentioned that they couldn’t imagine me wearing make up because they’re so used to seeing me with a natural face. I showed them a picture I’d taken on a typical day at my last job. They confidently declared “you look better without it.” Assuming that perhaps they were simply being polite, […]

I came across the verse below for the first time at a prayer retreat last year. Although arriving late meant that I missed the majority of the context in which it was used, the text itself spoke volumes. “The soul of a lazy man desires, and has nothing; but the soul of the diligent shall […]

After spending just over 2 months in Genesis (focusing specifically on God speaking to humans)… I finally made it to Exodus this week! I couldn’t help but be dumbfounded by Moses’ seemingly needless insecurity about being a leader. However, I was equally conscious that some of my own insecurities drive my decision-making. “But Moses again […]

If you’ve read I Can’t Help It! then you know that many Christians believe the myth that a sinless character is impossible to attain. It’s definitely easier, less stressful, and more convenient to believe that. But that’s the case with all low expectations. Although this is hardest goal you could hope to achieve, I hope that […]

Are you 100% satisfied with life as it is right now? If your answer is ‘no’ then you are aware of areas that need improvement. Where do sinful tendencies rank on that list? Christians (myself included) love to use the phrase “I can’t help it”, or “it’s in my nature” as an excuse to sin. […]

God speaks to us in many ways e.g. through the Bible, the Holy Spirit, and providence. Distinguishing God’s will from either my own thoughts, or plain coincidence, has been one of the things I’ve found most challenging in my spiritual walk. However, knowing God’s will is only half of the story. Doing it is the […]